In the complex dance of corporate leadership, the element of ‘likeability’ often becomes a critical determinant of an executive’s influence and success. However, one should act wisely, as the pursuit of likeability is not a simple popularity contest. It involves a fine balance and understanding of the 12 unwritten rules of likeability.

These 12 rules include authenticity, empathy, listening, treating others with respect, showing genuine interest, being relatable, exhibiting positivity, showing humility, having a sense of humor, demonstrating reliability, being open and approachable, and respecting boundaries.

Being authentic and relatable allows people to connect with you on a deeper level. It shreds layers of pretense, welcoming trust and fostering genuine relationships. Empathy and active listening show others that their feelings and opinions matter, which encourages open communication and mutual respect.

Treating others with respect, showing interest in them, and respecting boundaries are all markers of a leader who values their team members as individuals. People tend to gravitate towards those who make them feel valued and appreciated.

Manifesting positivity, exhibiting a sense of humor, and humility make an executive approachable, creating an environment of openness and engagement. Being reliable further reaffirms trust in the leader’s capability to deliver on commitments.

However, these rules are not checkboxes to tick off. Leaders should strive to internalize these traits, ensuring they are expressed genuinely. It’s important to remember that people are highly intuitive and can sense pretentious behavior.

Furthermore, these unwritten rules of likeability should be seen as complementary to professional skills and not as substitutes. A likable leader without skills and strategic acumen is just as ineffective as a highly competent leader who is unlikable.

In conclusion, navigating the complexities of executive likeability involves more than just being “nice”. It’s about cultivating a personal brand that inspires trust, respect, and cooperation, contributing significantly to an executive’s ability to influence and lead effectively.

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Fay Niewiadomski

I awaken leaders to purposefully discern the best way forward, with such clarity, that they find within themselves the courage, wisdom, and compassion to do what they never dared to do before.

I’ve been privileged to work closely with C-level officers, presidents, ministers, global chairman, diplomats, board members, senior business and political leaders, and their teams to successfully navigate complex, high-stakes situations and make sound business and personal decisions resulting in profound and lasting change.

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